Marvelous Melancholy

Its time to clear something up. Just because we're into positive affirmations, doesn't mean we're happy-go-lucky, in wonderful bliss all the time. Wouldn't that be annoying? What kind of super human person never feels anxious, stressed, sad, restless, confused?

I believe that there are infinite ways to view every situation, and its this viewpoint that determines our reactions and ultimately the course of our lives. It takes practice and a willingness to see things in a different way that shifts our minds. That's why affirmations are powerful. They remind us to make the choice to see things in a better way, a way that helps us be gentle with others and ourselves. But its not flawless and there are other emotions to experience besides joy and bliss. When I feel like I'm trying and trying to see things differently and I can't fight anymore, its time to give in. I have to let go, to give in to the marvelous melancholy. I find myself listening to beautiful, sad music, writing in my journal, going for walks, taking a bath, moving through a slow yoga practice, having a glass of wine and generally feeling sad. And you know what, it feel so good, like an ocean wave of emotion rushing through me all at once. My creativity stirs, my relationships feel more meaningful, my sadness feels cathartic. Its like I'm honoring a part of me that needs to be acknowledged and experienced.

When its over I usually emerge with new insights, a different outlook and more compassion for others going through similar cycles. All those positive phrases start to take on real meaning - I am limitless, blessed, joyful, love, present and free. Maybe we should create tees that have affirmations like I am healing, I am releasing and I am reflecting, to honor the importance of those aspects of ourselves too. 

Its important that I remember all this the next time I'm struggling to see the best in things, to just open the flood gates and feel what's real, so the positive emotions become even more powerful and valuable. Just another part of the cycle of the human experience.